Identity & Personhood

Healthy Boundaries Suck

By Jessica Newsome   There’s a thought I’ve been circling back to in conversations with my friends. One friend in particular is struggling to re-define her relationship with a parent who is an addict. Another isn’t sure how to handle a sometimes “mean girl” in her life—one she cannot disconnect from professionally and is therefore unable to wholly disconnect from… Read more →

Why I Love My OCD

By elizabeth (“lizzie”) mcmanus   Content warning: discussion of OCD, suicidal ideation, mental illness, familial and child death   Author’s Note: This is my story in learning to live with and love my OCD – but this is in NO WAY a universal experience or sentiment. Writing this has been cathartic – and painful – for me, and it’s my… Read more →

The Kid Question: As Told By a Happily Married Lesbian

By Tayler Rey   “So when are you going to have kids?”   Ah. The question. The sister question to when are you going to get married? The distant cousin to why don’t you ever date? If you haven’t experienced this question—congratulations, you are single. Someone back in the day adopted the “get married and start a family right away” storyline and apparently everyone else… Read more →

Interview: Jayni Reed

As a part of our interview series, Flawless Project contributor Jessica Newsome has been asking flawless women in different fields and life places seven questions about life, career, feminism, dreams and goals, and more.    Meet Jayni Reed! Jayni is a former homeschooler who lives in Germany. She is currently raising her 2-year-old son and learning life lessons about what… Read more →

When Forgiveness Looks Different for Everyone

By Jessica Newsome   I’ve spent a lot of time trying to figure out what forgiveness means. To be honest, the word enrages me.  When I grew up, forgiveness meant “restoration”—which frankly, meant abuse. It meant that church leaders who tried to cast demons out of my friends suffering from eating disorders were above reproach. It meant the church members who emotionally,… Read more →

Sitting on the Fence: Ambivalence and Motherhood

By Jessica Knippel   I’ve always been ambivalent about motherhood. Not in a militant, anti-patriarchal power dynamics sense, but in a much more subtle—and more personal—way.   As a child I was raised with dolls and dreams of marriage, yet in spite of all the “babies” I didn’t really play at motherhood. More often my play was about creating things… Read more →